Getting your teenager to talk.

There are times in a teenager's life where things can get confusing or just seem totally overwhelming. They begin to show behavioural differences. Some may withdraw while others may act up.

It is important to let your teenager know that you are there for them. Not by smothering them in hugs and kisses, but by letting them know that if they ever need to talk that you are always available.

If you are certain something is wrong, take them into a closed room away from the rest of the family. Once alone sit face to face with them and talk to them as an adult. Let them know you have noticed something is troubling them, give them a chance to respond. They may just want to talk about minor issues or even something that they have achieved that makes them feel good. Make sure you engage with them about the discussion. If there is a problem, talk it through and see if you can both come up with a compromise. Ask if they have any suggestions on how to fix the situation and if not suggest a few yourself. Sometimes, the solution can be as simple as letting the teenager have a few days off school as "mental health days". They can study during this time at home. A break is often as good as a holiday.

Whether or not your teenager opens up to you about what's troubling them, let them know you are proud of whom they are becoming.

If the teenager has been playing up and causing havoc let them know that even though they have had a few bad weeks/years that you see the wonderful potential they have.

Encourage them to partake in positive things which interest them.

If you feel your child needs someone else to talk to try the school counsellor or a child psychologist. Or click on the link below to kids help line.